Connection, Not Conformity:
How to Relate Without Losing Yourself

Learn to connect deeply, express yourself fully, and build relationships without abandoning yourself.

Have you ever walked away from a conversation feeling like you weren’t fully there? Maybe you softened your words to avoid tension, carefully managed your tone, or found yourself analyzing every sentence to make sure you “got it right.” Perhaps you replayed the interaction later, wondering if you should have said something differently or if you should have spoken up at all.

It’s easy to fall into patterns of over-accommodating others or holding back out of fear of disconnection. You might find yourself carrying the emotional weight of those around you, taking responsibility for how they feel while ignoring your own experience. Or maybe you struggle to express yourself in the moment, stuck in your head trying to predict the “right” thing to say.

But true connection doesn’t require self-abandonment. Getting it right means connecting with what's real, not what's perfect.

What if you could show up fully, share your truth, and relate deeply without losing yourself in the process?

That’s exactly what we’ll explore in this free, experiential workshop.

Who This Workshop Is For

This is for you if:

• You find yourself stuck in overanalysis during conversations, trying to say the “right” thing.

• You struggle with being fully honest in relationships, worried about how others might react.

• You tend to hold back your true thoughts or emotions to avoid conflict.

• You sometimes take too much responsibility for how others feel.

• You want to relate more authentically while staying grounded in yourself.

This might not be for you if:

• You’re looking for a passive webinar where you can sit back and just listen.

• You prefer to keep your camera off and stay entirely in the background.

• You absolutely hate interactive exercises and real-time connection practices - if you feel a little uncomfortable and a little bit of longing, this might be exactly what you need.

• This isn’t a lecture; it’s a space to practice, experiment, and engage in conversation. You’ll be invited to participate, and while there’s no pressure to perform attention, showing up and being present is part of the experience.

What You’ll Experience

Authenticity doesn’t mean saying whatever’s on your mind without care for impact. And connection doesn’t mean sacrificing your truth to make others feel comfortable. The magic is in finding your balance. As we explore these practices, we’ll also unpack some of the deeper patterns that shape our relationships. This isn’t just theory. We’ll practice together in real conversations so you can feel what it’s like to:

• Express yourself without self-censoring.

• Listen deeply without taking responsibility for someone else’s emotions.

• Connect with others without performing or pretending.

What We’ll Cover

• How to notice the patterns of people-pleasing, over-explaining, and self-censoring in relationships.

• How to balance honesty with care, without caretaking or over-accommodating.

• Two simple but powerful Authentic Relating practices to experience real connection in real-time.

What to Expect

This is an interactive, participatory workshop. Expect:

• A mix of individual reflection, paired exercises, and small-group conversations.

• A space where you’re encouraged to engage at your own pace, whether that means diving in or observing first.

• No forced sharing, no awkward icebreakers. Just real, meaningful connection.

This workshop is free because practising these skills with real people is where the magic happens. Because this is experiential, there won't be a recording - there are two sessions to accommodate different time zones (please make sure you’re signing up for the right one!).

What Others Have Said

“Vix has a way of addressing complex and often overlooked aspects of our being with ease, simplicity, and profound wisdom. Her workshops are pleasant, yet very useful, with tools to take right into day-to-day life. I warmly recommend her and her work.” ~ Anja Lautar

“I enjoyed the pearls of wisdom and light bulb moments of this workshop. Vix is a gentle and affirming way of explaining and connecting ideas and people.” ~ Elestren Vassalli

“Vix brings a wonderful mix of openness, and reframing. She is an engaging and warm teacher.” ~ Aly

A Next Step If You Want More

This workshop is also a taste of the deeper work we’ll do in my upcoming Authentic Relating courses, so if this resonates, you’ll have the opportunity to deepen your practice. But first, let’s experience what’s possible when you relate as you are.

This isn’t just another workshop. It’s a chance to experience connection in a way you may never have before.

Are you in?

The times below will show in WITA - the time for me here in Bali. That’s UTC+8 so Tuesday at 17.30 WITA is 09.30 in the UK and 10.30 in Europe. Wednesday at 9.00 WITA is Tuesday at 18.00 PST. Still not sure? Check your time zone here.